“I married my best friend.” This is what I hear about love. Although, whoever you choose to marry eventually is somewhat forced to become your best friend. All of the attraction and sex on the planet isn't what makes a marriage because at some point, you just have to sit across the dinner table and have an actual conversation. This saying is one that puzzles many because it is not necessarily true. You are two complete people, regarding whether you’re best friends, who come together to make something entirely new, there are always things to work through, ups and downs because you are individuals and no one is easy to be with. But how do you grow off that secret-telling, best friend, always-together relationship to marriage?
That best friend knows all your secrets which creates tension, although it’s beneficial for being in a relationship, some things are better left unsaid. Hiding things from your significant other can lead to bad situations. This means the whole “ignorance is bliss” and “white lies” concepts can turn into lies, which then catch snowball effect leads to a life consumed of lies and betrayal. But shouldn’t all of your secrets be known if you’re going to marry? This is where being best friends before marriage can help you out. Yet some say, marriage forces people into being best friends, but if it did, people wouldn't get divorced as frequently.
Too often, people mistake that amazing, loving, tingly feelings of butterflies in their stomach for being in love and they don't understand that marriage is hard work. A best friend is there to make you laugh and pick you up when you are down, but there's a reason that romance novels are in the fiction section. Best friends falling in love is in our media, society and constantly repeated in hearsay around us, but it isn’t an excuse to immediately commit to your best friend.
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